When Our Adult Children Walk Away
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When Our Adult Children Walk Away
My story. Reflecting my experiences, observations and perspective - in my words. In the early spring of 2019, under the influence of her gatekeeper-partner, in the heart of the global pandemic. After several years of trying to sort through our differences, my (young) adult daughter made the hea...
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Aligning Your Communication With Your Adult Child's Perceptions
It’s natural to feel compelled to reach out to fix things at every level of estrangement. We’ve been taught to pursue, talk, challenge, and perhaps ev...
Dad and Grampa: Navigating Estrangement Across Generations
Being a strong and steady father to an adult child and a grounded grandfather to their children matters deeply, especially in families experiencing te...
When Estrangement Shakes Our Faith: How loss, silence, and longing can impact spirituality.
When someone is living with any degree of estrangement, it can feel as though everything they once believed to be true about the relationship has shif...
The Unrest of Not Knowing: Letting Go of The Need for Certainty in Estrangement
You’re not crazy for wanting answers—you’re human. It's human nature to want to know how and why things happen. In estrangement, too often the answers...
When Tradition Meets Transition: 6 ways to Maintain the Meaning of Holidays
The winter holidays can turn a soft ache into a sharp pain when you’re estranged from your adult child. That can be true of any holiday.
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How To Be a Supportive Mom and Loving Grandma Without Overstepping or Being Taken for Granted
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Welcome to this safe, judgment-free space to find support, explore new perspectives, and better understand your estrangement circ...
Peeling the Onion Layer 2 - Cutting into the 7 layers of coercive abuse
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Peeling the Onion One Layer At a Time (Layer 1) - Overview of Coercive Control and Estrangement
In this episode of When Our Adult Children Walk Away, Dr. Janet Steinkamp helps you peel back the first layer of the topic of coercive control. If you...
When the Green Monster Rears Its Head: Jealousy and Estrangement
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How Do You vs Your Adult Child - Decide Whether to Attend Social Events on High Risk Days?
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Navigating Awkward Questions About Your Estrangement: Kindly Setting Boundaries
When estrangement is part of your life, even small talk can feel fraught.
In this episode, I help parents prepare and practice responses for wh...
5 Common Mistakes Therapists Make When Working With Us - Estranged Parents
If you’re an estranged parent working with a therapist—or thinking about it—this episode is a must-listen. In this episode, I walk listeners through f...
Father’s Day in Silence: A Heart-to-Heart for Estranged Dads
This episode is especially for our dads experiencing some degree of estrangement from their adult child.
Father’s Day is coming up—and if you're...
Rebuilding Trust: How Estranged Moms Can Reconnect- Episode 2
This episode is a follow-up to our Mother's Day conversation—and it's all about what to do next. If you’ve been blamed, shut out, or accused of things...
Crossed Wires: The Role of Emotional Incest in Estrangement
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When Mother’s Day Hurts: 10 Reasons Our Kids Pull Away
Mother’s Day can bring up a lot of emotional turmoil, can trigger our grief, and can shine a light on the empty chair at the dinner table - especially...
Managing High-Risk Days: How to Protect Your Heart, Mind and Future Relationship
Whether it's a holiday, birthday, or significant life event, high-risk days may – usually do - heighten the pain, loneliness and embarrassment of estr...
Close But Different: Rejection vs Dejection
If you’re experiencing some degree of estrangement, you have almost certainly experienced the sting of rejection and the emotional gut punch of deject...
It's True, Mom's and Dad's Experience and Navigate Estrangement Differently (Short)
In this episode, we dig into some of the differences and similarities of how moms and dads tell us they experience and navigate estrangement.
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Reasons 1 - 10; 20 Reasons Walking on Egg Shells is a Gift (Extended)
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The "Let Them Go" Movement and It's Distant Cousin "Let Them Go - Good Riddance" (Short)
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Stop The Noise! The 20 Gifts of Walking on Eggshells (Short)
Walking on Eggshells is a concept we use to describe the extreme hypersensitivity parents feel when their relationship with their adult child is falte...
6 Tips to Proactively Give Space to Your Adult Child and Avoid Misrepresentation
In this episode, I discuss six tips that will proactively ensure you give space to your adult child and avoid misrepresentation by others. This topic...
Is the Sky Really Falling? How to Avoid the Habit of Catastrophizing
In this episode, we consider avoiding or getting out of the habit of catastrophizing. You might be saying, “Hasn’t the worst already happened?” I sugg...
Cracking the Busy Body Code: Managing Your Message
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Friendly Advocate or Flying Monkey? (Extended)
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Friendly Advocate or Flying Monkey? (Short)
So often, people who love and support us are also in contact with or know our distancing or estranged adult child. I'm often asked whether it is "a go...
What the H@!! are they talking about? Reproductive Memory vs Reconstructive Memory (Definitions and Differences) Short
Memory distortion is common in our human experience. It can be particularly relevant in crumbling relationships between parents and their adult childr...
Note to Self: 10 Daily Tips to Keep You in the Parent-Partner Lane
A few years ago, in the middle years of our family's estrangement from my adult daughter and grandchildren, I adopted the phrase "Parent Partner.”
What, When and How: Apologize or Explain (Extended)
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What's the Difference? Apology and Explanation (Short)
In healthy and effective communication, the strategic use of apologies and explanations can significantly influence the outcome and effectiveness of o...
8 Healthy and Emotionally Charged Realities of Letting Go
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What is the Difference: Gaslighting vs Reframing
The concept of gaslighting has become a common term over the past few years. So what is it and why is it that our adult children are quick to accuse p...
8 Things Our Adult Children Consider Before Leaving or Reconnecting
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What is the Difference: Independence or Estrangement
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One of the most frequent questions I'm asked is, "How do I know if my child is cutting ties a...
The Continuum of Estrangement - Where does your relationship sit?
Determining the level of estrangement between you and your adult child can involve some introspection and assessment of your relationship dynamics. <...
5 Imposters: The Anatomy of an Authentic Apology
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Estrangement Grief - Stage 6 - Maintenance
In this episode, Dr. Steinkamp presents the sixth stage of Estrangement Grief. During the stage of maintenance - Maintenance.
In this s...
Estrangement Grief - Stage 5 - Transformation
The transformation stage of grief in the context of estrangement typically refers to the process of adapting and finding meaning after experiencing th...
Estrangement Grief - Stage 4 - Acceptance
The acceptance stage of estrangement grief is one of the phases individuals may go through when experiencing the pain and emotional turmoil associated...